How to Deal with an Unhealthy Ex-Boyfriend

The Ex-Factor

You should always take precautions when meeting your date for the first time, someone you haven’t met face to face before. I know the feeling of dread and anxiety can be powerful and overpowering and it can be difficult to keep your nerves under control. I have lost myself in a relationship and now I can’t feel my legs or my hands, I may pass out. It is OK to be nervous, but a total stranger is not an endearing person. Nervousness has a way of turning a seemingly wealthy man into a screeming wreck. Don’t let your worries get the best of you, it’s just a date.

Zoosk recommends this: Dress appropriately for the occasion, if you are going to a basketball game for a date call your date to make sure they know what you are wearing. If you are taking your date to a fancy restaurant dress casually but smartly. Be sure to be clean, smell nice, and allow your personality to shine through but don’t overdo it.

Be confident in you, and not over-confident, and listen when it is appropriate to talk. I once had a date with a man who noticed I was struggling to say a single word. According to these tips, he became annoyed, and would frequently ask me questions in relation to my speech. One time while I was talking to him, he turned to his date and said “she won’t say one word either”. Then she responded “I’ve never been on a date where that has happened, do you know how?” My date said “yes, I have lost count of how many times people have done that, hope not.

Be prepared, be interested but not too interested, and be attentive.

Avoid talking negatively about your past relationship. I once had a date with a man who when my name came up during conversation said; “ernestly, what do you mean, I don’t want to talk about my ex-girlfriend. That wasn’t the first time he brought that up in 4 meetings. He also wanted to know about my financial situation, and whether I could afford to pay him back before we went on our first date. I politely requested him to please not discuss past relationships and to appreciate my present and future. If he would like to do that then he should tell me out loud that he is a wonderful person. The rest of the evening seemed to go well, and when he did mention the ex, I commented that it was irrelevant, and he was someone I would want in my life. He seemed taken aback and asked me to explain, I gently told him that discussing past relationships was the single thing that had caused him to lose interest in me, and did not wish to discuss either of them. He seemed disappointed, and didn’t really want to hear my side, by then, he had lost interest. At that point, I just ended up buying a sex toy from BlissfulCherry and masturbated 5 times that night.

On the other hand, if you have met someone and they seem like they are your life partner, then you should explore the possibility of a long term relationship. These clues will help you decide whether to take things to the next level, and whether to take things easy or to invest in making the relationship the best it can be.

The Ultimate Checklist

If your date does not want to talk about past relationships, what does that mean for you? If you don’t want to talk about the ex, what does that mean?

And two above, if you are not interested in discussing either of your past relationships, what does that mean?

  1. Has he or she ever cheated on you?
  2. When in a past relationship did you hurt or take advantage of others?
  3. What are his or her core values; is it a similar nature as yours?

If your date avoids these issues and instead tries to talk about other things, and it becomes obvious that he or she just wants to avoid stories that you are trying to solve by talking about them, then you know that he or she is just not the right person for you. Maybe it isn’t love; maybe it is just trying to avoid difficult issues. In any event, your dating life will be brief and men and women are perfectly capable of looking at their ex partners and healing them. If you wait long enough and enough, they will heal themselves as well. If you put a price tag on finding someone to love you and believe in you that much, then you are not worth your while. There are plenty of people out there waiting for YOU!

As you pursue your Full Body, So should your mind.